Love & Affairs · Providence, RI
He moved in with two suitcases and a secret phone
Three days after my boyfriend moved into my apartment, I found a second phone hidden inside one of his shoes.
It had no passcode.
The first message I saw was from a woman asking when he planned to come home.
My name is Minnie. I am a 39-year-old Vietnamese woman working as a nail tech in Providence, Rhode Island.
I met Nam online.
He was 37 and lived in New York. He also worked in a nail salon, so we had plenty to talk about from the beginning.
He understood the long hours, difficult customers, back pain, salon drama, and how tired your hands feel after a busy Saturday.
Most men I had dated did not understand my work.
Nam did.
We started messaging every night after closing. Sometimes we stayed on the phone until one or two in the morning.
He told me he was single and had been living alone for almost two years.
He said he wanted a serious relationship, not games.
I believed him because he never asked me for money and never pushed me to meet too quickly.
After about three months, he drove to Providence to see me.
He looked almost exactly like his pictures.
He was not extremely handsome, but he had a friendly smile and knew how to make me laugh.
We ate Vietnamese food, walked around downtown, and talked about opening a salon together someday.
That first weekend felt easy.
After that, we took turns visiting each other.
Sometimes I went to New York. Sometimes he came to Rhode Island.
When I visited him, we always stayed at a hotel.
He said he rented a room in a crowded house with several other men, and he felt embarrassed bringing me there.
That explanation made sense to me.
Many nail techs rent rooms to save money.
For almost one year, Nam acted like the kind of man I had been waiting for.
He called every morning.
He remembered my schedule.
He sent food to my salon when I worked late.
When my car needed repairs, he drove from New York to help me speak with the mechanic.
My coworkers knew about him because I talked about him all the time.
They told me I looked happier.
I was happy.
I had been single for a long time, and I started thinking maybe I had finally met someone who understood me.
Then Nam said he wanted to move to Rhode Island.
He told me he was tired of driving back and forth.
He said he wanted us to stop living like a long-distance couple and start building a real life together.
I asked whether he was sure.
He said he had never been more sure about anything.
He found a job at a salon near Providence. The pay was a little lower than what he made in New York, but he said being with me mattered more.
When he arrived, he brought only two suitcases.
I thought that was strange after living in New York for years.
He said most of his belongings belonged to the room and that he had thrown away old clothes before moving.
I did not question him.
The first two days were good.
We cooked together, bought groceries, and cleared part of my closet for his clothes.
He even brought home flowers after his first day at the new salon.
On the third night, I was cleaning the bedroom while he took a shower.
One of his shoes had fallen sideways near the closet.
When I picked it up, something heavy moved inside.
I thought it was a shoe insert.
Instead, I pulled out a small black phone.
The screen lit up in my hand.
There were several missed calls and messages from a woman named Trang.
I knew I should have waited and asked him about it.
I did not.
I opened the messages.
Trang wanted to know when he planned to come home.
She asked whether he had told the other woman the truth yet.
She also sent a picture of a little boy holding a birthday cake.
The boy looked exactly like Nam.
I felt like all the air had left the room.
I kept scrolling.
Nam had told Trang he was working temporarily in Rhode Island.
He said he would return to New York after saving more money.
In another message, he told her that he still loved her but needed space.
I heard the shower turn off.
I put the phone on the bed and waited.
When Nam walked into the room and saw it, his face changed immediately.
He did not ask where I found it.
He only sat down.
I asked who Trang was.
He said she was his ex.
Then I asked why his ex was waiting for him to come home.
He stayed quiet.
I showed him the picture of the little boy.
That was when he admitted the truth.
Trang was not his ex.
She was his wife.
They had been married for nine years and had a seven-year-old son.
Nam said their marriage had been unhappy for a long time.
He claimed they slept in separate rooms and stayed together only because of their child.
I asked why he never told me he had a son.
He said he was afraid I would leave before getting to know him.
I told him I had known him for a year, and I still did not know him.
He started crying.
I had never seen him cry before.
He said his feelings for me were real.
He said he truly planned to leave his wife, but every time he tried, she used their son to make him feel guilty.
Then he said moving in with me was his way of finally making a decision.
That made me even angrier.
He had not made a decision.
He had left one woman waiting in New York while moving into another woman’s apartment.
I told him to pack his things and leave.
He said he had already quit his old job and given up his room.
I told him that was not my problem.
Then his second phone started ringing.
Trang was calling.
Nam stared at it but did not answer.
I picked up the phone and answered for him.
I did not know what I was going to say.
Trang spoke first.
She asked whether I was Minnie.
Hearing my own name from his wife scared me more than anything else.
She already knew who I was.
She knew where I worked.
She knew I lived in Providence.
She had known about me for months.
Trang did not yell at me.
She sounded tired.
She said Nam had done something similar before with another woman in New Jersey.
That woman found out after six months and contacted Trang.
Nam promised it would never happen again.
I looked at him while she spoke.
He would not look at me.
Trang told me he always said their marriage was over.
She said they had problems, but he still came home, slept in their bed, ate her food, and acted like a husband whenever he was in New York.
Then she asked me whether he had told me they were opening a salon together someday.
That was the moment I understood how much of our relationship had been planned.
The salon dream was not something special between us.
It was part of the story he used.
Nam grabbed the phone from my hand and ended the call.
He became angry with Trang for telling me everything.
That showed me more about him than all his crying had.
He was not angry because he had hurt two women.
He was angry because we had spoken to each other.
I gave him one hour to leave.
He packed the same two suitcases he had arrived with.
Before walking out, he asked whether I had ever really loved him.
I told him I had loved the man he pretended to be.
He stayed at a motel that night.
Two days later, he returned to New York.
I blocked his number, but he emailed me for weeks.
He said Trang had kicked him out.
He said he had lost both women and finally understood his mistakes.
I never answered.
About three months later, one of my coworkers showed me a picture from social media.
Nam was standing beside Trang and their son at a family party.
Everyone was smiling.
His arm was around his wife.
Maybe she forgave him.
Maybe they were only pretending for their child.
I do not know.
The part that still bothers me is not that he returned to her.
It is that for an entire year, I thought we were slowly building a future.
To him, I was only another place he could run to when he became tired of his real life.
I kept one thing after he left.
The empty space in my closet where his clothes had been stayed empty for months.
Every time I saw it, I remembered how easily two suitcases had convinced me that a married man had chosen me.
It had no passcode.
The first message I saw was from a woman asking when he planned to come home.
My name is Minnie. I am a 39-year-old Vietnamese woman working as a nail tech in Providence, Rhode Island.
I met Nam online.
He was 37 and lived in New York. He also worked in a nail salon, so we had plenty to talk about from the beginning.
He understood the long hours, difficult customers, back pain, salon drama, and how tired your hands feel after a busy Saturday.
Most men I had dated did not understand my work.
Nam did.
We started messaging every night after closing. Sometimes we stayed on the phone until one or two in the morning.
He told me he was single and had been living alone for almost two years.
He said he wanted a serious relationship, not games.
I believed him because he never asked me for money and never pushed me to meet too quickly.
After about three months, he drove to Providence to see me.
He looked almost exactly like his pictures.
He was not extremely handsome, but he had a friendly smile and knew how to make me laugh.
We ate Vietnamese food, walked around downtown, and talked about opening a salon together someday.
That first weekend felt easy.
After that, we took turns visiting each other.
Sometimes I went to New York. Sometimes he came to Rhode Island.
When I visited him, we always stayed at a hotel.
He said he rented a room in a crowded house with several other men, and he felt embarrassed bringing me there.
That explanation made sense to me.
Many nail techs rent rooms to save money.
For almost one year, Nam acted like the kind of man I had been waiting for.
He called every morning.
He remembered my schedule.
He sent food to my salon when I worked late.
When my car needed repairs, he drove from New York to help me speak with the mechanic.
My coworkers knew about him because I talked about him all the time.
They told me I looked happier.
I was happy.
I had been single for a long time, and I started thinking maybe I had finally met someone who understood me.
Then Nam said he wanted to move to Rhode Island.
He told me he was tired of driving back and forth.
He said he wanted us to stop living like a long-distance couple and start building a real life together.
I asked whether he was sure.
He said he had never been more sure about anything.
He found a job at a salon near Providence. The pay was a little lower than what he made in New York, but he said being with me mattered more.
When he arrived, he brought only two suitcases.
I thought that was strange after living in New York for years.
He said most of his belongings belonged to the room and that he had thrown away old clothes before moving.
I did not question him.
The first two days were good.
We cooked together, bought groceries, and cleared part of my closet for his clothes.
He even brought home flowers after his first day at the new salon.
On the third night, I was cleaning the bedroom while he took a shower.
One of his shoes had fallen sideways near the closet.
When I picked it up, something heavy moved inside.
I thought it was a shoe insert.
Instead, I pulled out a small black phone.
The screen lit up in my hand.
There were several missed calls and messages from a woman named Trang.
I knew I should have waited and asked him about it.
I did not.
I opened the messages.
Trang wanted to know when he planned to come home.
She asked whether he had told the other woman the truth yet.
She also sent a picture of a little boy holding a birthday cake.
The boy looked exactly like Nam.
I felt like all the air had left the room.
I kept scrolling.
Nam had told Trang he was working temporarily in Rhode Island.
He said he would return to New York after saving more money.
In another message, he told her that he still loved her but needed space.
I heard the shower turn off.
I put the phone on the bed and waited.
When Nam walked into the room and saw it, his face changed immediately.
He did not ask where I found it.
He only sat down.
I asked who Trang was.
He said she was his ex.
Then I asked why his ex was waiting for him to come home.
He stayed quiet.
I showed him the picture of the little boy.
That was when he admitted the truth.
Trang was not his ex.
She was his wife.
They had been married for nine years and had a seven-year-old son.
Nam said their marriage had been unhappy for a long time.
He claimed they slept in separate rooms and stayed together only because of their child.
I asked why he never told me he had a son.
He said he was afraid I would leave before getting to know him.
I told him I had known him for a year, and I still did not know him.
He started crying.
I had never seen him cry before.
He said his feelings for me were real.
He said he truly planned to leave his wife, but every time he tried, she used their son to make him feel guilty.
Then he said moving in with me was his way of finally making a decision.
That made me even angrier.
He had not made a decision.
He had left one woman waiting in New York while moving into another woman’s apartment.
I told him to pack his things and leave.
He said he had already quit his old job and given up his room.
I told him that was not my problem.
Then his second phone started ringing.
Trang was calling.
Nam stared at it but did not answer.
I picked up the phone and answered for him.
I did not know what I was going to say.
Trang spoke first.
She asked whether I was Minnie.
Hearing my own name from his wife scared me more than anything else.
She already knew who I was.
She knew where I worked.
She knew I lived in Providence.
She had known about me for months.
Trang did not yell at me.
She sounded tired.
She said Nam had done something similar before with another woman in New Jersey.
That woman found out after six months and contacted Trang.
Nam promised it would never happen again.
I looked at him while she spoke.
He would not look at me.
Trang told me he always said their marriage was over.
She said they had problems, but he still came home, slept in their bed, ate her food, and acted like a husband whenever he was in New York.
Then she asked me whether he had told me they were opening a salon together someday.
That was the moment I understood how much of our relationship had been planned.
The salon dream was not something special between us.
It was part of the story he used.
Nam grabbed the phone from my hand and ended the call.
He became angry with Trang for telling me everything.
That showed me more about him than all his crying had.
He was not angry because he had hurt two women.
He was angry because we had spoken to each other.
I gave him one hour to leave.
He packed the same two suitcases he had arrived with.
Before walking out, he asked whether I had ever really loved him.
I told him I had loved the man he pretended to be.
He stayed at a motel that night.
Two days later, he returned to New York.
I blocked his number, but he emailed me for weeks.
He said Trang had kicked him out.
He said he had lost both women and finally understood his mistakes.
I never answered.
About three months later, one of my coworkers showed me a picture from social media.
Nam was standing beside Trang and their son at a family party.
Everyone was smiling.
His arm was around his wife.
Maybe she forgave him.
Maybe they were only pretending for their child.
I do not know.
The part that still bothers me is not that he returned to her.
It is that for an entire year, I thought we were slowly building a future.
To him, I was only another place he could run to when he became tired of his real life.
I kept one thing after he left.
The empty space in my closet where his clothes had been stayed empty for months.
Every time I saw it, I remembered how easily two suitcases had convinced me that a married man had chosen me.
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